I purposefully abstained from combining a Christmas wish list this year whether it’s on the blog or telling it orally to my loved ones. Up till last Christmas I always used to hint at what I wanted for Christmas because let’s face it, we all have that ‘I DON’T WANT IT. I NEED IT’ item.
But something changed this year. I stopped asking and expecting people to buy me the presents that I want. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not the type of person who solely asks for presents and never give back. The most exciting part in the Christmas process for me is choosing and buying presents for others. I just love the feeling of giving presents and watching people open up their gifts.
But as I said, something changed this year and now I know why. I noticed this year that people have stopped trying to figure out what others might want for Christmas. They simply ask ‘What do you want for Christmas?’. The problems behind this question are several. One. When I’m asked this question, I’m immediately put in an awkward position. It seems like it’s an obligation to buy presents for Christmas and not because the other person wants to. Two. It ruins the surprise. And personally, I love surprises. Even though, in the past years I might have hinted at some desirable items, I loved receiving presents which I never imagined could be under that Christmas tree.
On the other end of the spectrum, I’ve also encountered people saying ‘If you’re going to buy me something for Christmas, I want…’. Which has the same implications as above. People are expecting others to buy them specific presents rather than waiting for a surprise or just not expecting anything back.
It seems that as the years go by people are making less of an effort in their gift-giving to try their best in making others happy. Presents are becoming more of an obligation or an expectation rather than a way of giving back.
So I stopped making wish lists and refuse to tell people what I want for Christmas because I don’t like the way this ‘presents’ trend is evolving.